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Myths About Sex After 40

Forty may be the new 30, but considering the misconceptions about women’s sexuality and desirability after a “certain age,” you’d think 40 was the new 80! Whether you blame advertising portrayals of what’s “sexy” (Victoria’s Secret models, anyone?), or the fact that leading TV and movie roles turn more to the matronly than the hot as actresses age, myths about a more mature women’s sexuality abound. “We silently believe that only young people have sex,” says Maureen McGrath, RN, a sex-health educator and radio host. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Here, eight myths we’re happy to dispel for you.

Myth 1: You don’t need sex as you get older.

Truth: It’s hard to redefine what the need for sex is after you’re done baby-making. And sure, you won’t die without sex; it’s not food or water. But that doesn’t mean you need it any less than other things that bring joy, satisfaction and better emotional and physical health. “Sex gets blood flowing, which brings nutrients to all parts of your body and eliminates waste. Heart pumping, deep breathing—it’s all good for you,” says Carmella Sebastian, MD, a women’s wellness and sexuality expert.

Myth 2: Those extra pounds make you undesirable.

Truth: Repeat after us: Enjoying sex isn’t about how you look, but how you feel. “You can have inner confidence at any weight,” says McGrath. That said, if you’re not feeling your best, go for a brisk, 30-minute walk with your partner rather than have another helping of pasta at dinner. And try to quash that inner monologue that’s telling you men don’t find less-than-perfect bodies sexy. Ask any guy: If the woman who shares his bed gets naked, he’s not seeing a muffin top and cellulite. He’s seeing naked. If you’re single now and worried that a new lover won’t find you desirable, forget that too. “Your lumps, bumps and wrinkles mean nothing to 99% of men over 40,” says Bobbi Palmer, founder and CEO of Date Like a Grownup. “What you lack in firmness you more than make up in humor, compassion and experience. Plus, you know your body better than you ever did in your 20s.” All those years living in your skin has taught you what turns you on that you just didn’t know two decades ago. And what’s sexier to a man than a woman who knows what she wants in bed?

Myth 3: Your body isn’t sexual once you enter perimenopause.

Truth: The changes that occur in the (sometimes) years before menopause, such as irregular periods, mood changes and lack of vaginal lubrication will affect your sex life. But a changing body is still a sexual body, says Dr. Sebastian, and recognizing that is important. Avoiding sexual activity may only worsen things. Take dryness: Using a lubricant such as KY Jelly helps, but so does the act of having sex: “When blood goes to the genitals, the tissues remain healthy,” encouraging natural lubrication. Hot flashes and fatigue associated with perimenopause can wreak havoc on your energy levels, says McGrath, so talk to your doctor about possible hormonal remedies. And look on the bright side: This can be a time of experimentation and freedom with sex that you didn’t have when young kids were underfoot. “Introduce a vibrator, experiment with self-stimulation, try new positions,” suggests McGrath.

Myth 4: You’re too tired for sex.

Truth: This one persists for good reason—it makes sense that you’d be more worn-out now than you were 20 years ago. But it’s more likely that “I’m too tired” is an excuse to avoid sex. Being chronically out of energy can trigger a sex drive dip, so ask your doctor to check your thyroid levels and test you for anemia, says McGrath. And look at your lifestyle: Maybe you need to pare down your commitments and get better sleep by regulating your bedtime and removing un-sexy (and rest-interfering) TVs and computers from your bedroom. Other than that, “don’t wait to have sex until the end of the day when you’re exhausted,” says Dr. Sebastian. If you’re a morning person, try a little wake-up nookie, or if possible, a bit of afternoon delight.

Myth 5: You don’t have to worry about birth control.

Truth: Tell that to the legion of late-life moms toting their beloved “oops” babies! “It’s hard to know exactly when you’ll stop ovulating, even if you’re in the middle of perimenopause,” says Dr. Sebastian. “To check when you can skip protection, your doctor can do a blood test.” The level of follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) in your blood can reveal whether you’re still fertile, but levels fluctuate during perimenopause, so even a low FSH level may be misleading. That’s why it’s better to be safe than sorry. Menopause isn’t official until you’ve gone a full year without a period, says McGrath. In a new relationship? You still have to protect against sexually transmitted diseases, so use condoms until you’re sure about your partner’s past.

Myth 6: It’s normal for sex drive to drop as you age.

Truth: Actually, it may be the opposite. “It’s more likely for younger women to experience dips in libido,” says McGrath, probably thanks to the hormonal upheavals of pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and dealing with young children. So if you have little or no desire for any kind of sex—even with George Clooney in your fantasies—see your doctor to be sure you don’t have a medical condition, such as thyroid issues or certain cancers, says Dr. Sebastian. Beyond that, libido has a lot to do with how easily you can talk to your partner, and how bothered either of you is by how often you have sex. For one couple, once a month feels fine, whereas for others three times a week is practically nothing. “Figure out how much sex is enough before you decide you have a libido problem,” says McGrath.

Myth 7: Things that once turned you on no longer work because of your age.

Truth: “This is more a fact of a long relationship than aging,” says McGrath. You might be bored or in a rut (and so might your man), so address it as soon as possible, advises Dr. Sebastian. Get a video, buy a book, shake things up. Have a whole range of moves in your sexual arsenal because different things turn you on not just in different stages of life but on different days!

Myth 8: If I’ve never had great orgasms, it’s too late now.

Truth: This is easy to debunk, says Dr. Sebastian, who admits, “I was never multi-orgasmic until after I had my second child.” She attributes the change to a newfound sense of self-confidence, an ability to start asking for what she wanted in bed. Are you stressed? Did you have a fight with your spouse? Did you recently get a promotion at work and are feeling good about yourself? These all can affect your ability to climax. It’s never too late to explore what turns you on, says McGrath. “People think they’re born knowing how to be a great lover, but it has to be learned.”

Source: Sexual Health Center

Male walk properly can effectively prevent impotence

As we all know, moderate exercise can promote good health, exercise every day men suffering from impotence probability is much lower than men who do not exercise regularly. In fact, not much physical activity a day, equivalent to 3,000 m walk, you can prevent the occurrence of impotence, why not do it.

Frequent walks can regulate blood circulatory system and respiratory function, can keep the whole body blood vessel patency, the various organs of the body are able to get sufficient blood supply, thus avoiding impotence due to insufficient blood supply caused. Some patients with cardiovascular disease, its early symptoms are not the chest, but impotence, this is because when the blood can not flow, in the state of erectile response is more obvious. In addition, regular walking can improve the body’s metabolic rate, so that the legs and waist muscles get exercise, helps to eliminate fatigue, prevent occurs when sexual inadequacies. The best time for a walk with his wife, which helps promote emotional communication between each other, to alleviate impotence caused by psychological factors also play a role.

However, pay attention to posture when walking, otherwise they will feel tired. Correct posture when walking is chin up, stride forward, arms swinging back and forth with a strong rhythmic walk, arm swing amplitude is not too large, try to keep the shoulders and hips in a straight line.

3 Kinds of detailed symptoms of prostatitis

Prostatitis is a common disease in older male friends, but in recent years there is getting younger and younger, some young men also suffered prostatitis attacks. How to find prostatitis? Wish to look at the symptoms of prostatitis. Experts explain the symptoms of prostatitis in next article, I hope this can help you.

1. Chronic bacterial prostatitis
Varying degrees of frequency, dysuria, increased fluid urine, difficulty urinating; morning or urinate or defecate terminal urethra when there are thin or watery secretions have a relatively strong milky mucus; voiding the bladder and perineal discomfort sense, perianal, suprapubic, lumbosacral, groin and lower abdomen, scrotum, inner thighs and testicles, there are pain or discomfort in the urethra; painful ejaculation, blood, sperm, premature ejaculation, nocturnal emission, loss of libido or impotence. Often due to the merger of anxiety, dizziness, fatigue, insomnia and other symptoms.

2. Acute prostatitis
Urinary frequency, urgency, dysuria, urinary burning itching, and dysuria, nocturia. As well as lumbosacral and perineal pain, occasional hematuria, acute urinary retention. Rectal distension, fecal urgency or bowel pain, urinary flow stool white. Loss of libido, impotence, sexual pain, blood fine. Most patients with symptoms of systemic infection can occur, including sudden fever, chills. Muscle and joint pain and general malaise, and nausea, vomiting, anorexia.

3. Non-bacterial prostatitis
Non-bacterial prostatitis accounts for 64% of patients with prostatitis, the young are multiple groups, its clinical manifestations of urinary frequency, urgency, urinary endless, nocturnal enuresis, dysuria, etc., in addition to the pelvic area, suprapubic or perineal genital area pain or discomfort, pain or discomfort after ejaculation.

Source: Herbal Male Enhancement

Five ways for premature ejaculation no worry any more

Premature ejaculation affects not only their own health, but also affect the couple’s harmony and to married life brings trouble. For premature ejaculation in men, the biggest suggestion or want to adjust the attitude of male friends, aggressive treatment is the best way. In everyday life, you can also improve the quality of life through some scientific way.

Five ways for premature ejaculation no worry any more !

1. Diet nursed back to health: eat aphrodisiac foods such as dog meat, mutton, sparrows, walnuts, bullwhip, Yang Shen, etc., animal offal because it contains a lot of sex hormones and adrenal hormones, can enhance sperm motility, increase libido, impotence is also an products; addition of zinc foods such as male Dayton, beef, chicken liver, eggs, peanuts, pork, chicken, etc., containing arginine foods such as yam, ginkgo, frozen tofu, repair fish, sea cucumber, squid, octopus, which have help improve sexual function.

2. Mood shift method: premature ejaculation during sexual intercourse, the man can deliberately avoid the sex-related fantasy to think about other issues. When approaching orgasm to be his wife, and immediately moved back mood, quick ejaculate. This method should be carried out in the dark, so as not to affect the wife’s mood.

3. For the love of intermittent method: Before approaching orgasm, stop the penis twitch, twitch a moment and then repeat. This together with the impact of an alternate way down, especially for the woman irritation. It should be noted pause in the process of sexual intercourse, the man to do auxiliary action, such as touching or kissing the woman’s erogenous zones.

4. Relax: patients during intercourse, in a timely manner to eliminate unnecessary concerns in mind should also relax muscles, especially the toe part of the anus and the muscles do not tighten buckling, thrusting movements should be slow. Meanwhile, the mention on the air throat, conducted breath, hold your breath for action, and then slow down expiratory time.

5. Special postures: in addition to the penis during intercourse, minimize contact with the body parts of men and women. If the woman kneeling breech, the man’s knee upright backward type, or the woman supine knees, man standing in advancing (the woman up, the man down).

What Happens During a Female Orgasm?


Happy International Day of the Female Orgasm! For those of you who have had the pleasure (pun intended) of having an orgasm, you know that it is a sweet and satisfying sensation like no other. All women are different — some are quick to orgasm (remember when Jaiya had an orgasm just by thinking about it?), while others need to be warmed up for quite a while, like we saw on the Discovery special Curiosity. When it happens, though, your entire body and soul feel utterly amazing. So do you ever wonder what exactly is happening when you are about to reach your climax? Here’s the deal:

  • Once a woman becomes sexually aroused, her heart begins to beat quicker, and she breathes faster. She’ll tighten various muscles all over her body. Her breasts will enlarge slightly, and her nipples will become erect. Some women’s faces, necks, or chests will become flushed. Also, her clitoris enlarges.
  • She’ll notice that her vagina will have created a natural lubricant that will make sex much more enjoyable (if you’re too dry, then sex can really hurt).
  • Her labia (lips) will flatten out and open up. Inside, her vagina will lengthen and widen (preparing for you know what). All this happens because blood rushes to the pelvic area — called engorgement — and creates a pleasurably warm sensation in that area (you know what I’m talking about).
  • As arousal continues, everything becomes even more enlarged, and all the changes mentioned above become more pronounced. Yet the woman’s clitoris actually retracts under the hood and gets 50 percent shorter right before she climaxes.
  • When the woman reaches orgasm, her skin will flush, and muscles all over her body will continue to contract. Blood pressure, heart rate, and breathing rates will continue to rise.
  • In the vagina itself, she’ll feel rhythmic contractions in the outer part of the vagina, in her uterus, and in her anus. These intense pulses happen about once every second. Mild orgasms have three to five pulses, and intense orgasms have 10 to 15.

Did You Know? The muscle contractions you feel in your uterus when you have an orgasm actually have a purpose — they help to suck semen higher up into the vagina, making it easier for sperm to swim to your egg and help you get pregnant!

— Additional reporting by Alexis Nordby

7 Natural Ways to Curb Your Appetite


Diet pills and fad diets are so passé, but if you feel like your appetite has a mind of its own, you’re not alone. Taking a look at your habits and revamping your daily rituals can give you a new lease on your relationship with food. And of course, the best way to go about this is naturally.

  1. Drink more water: Plenty of people confuse hunger with dehydration. Keeping your water bottle full all day long will help you keep guzzling the good stuff and steer clear of unnecessary snacking.
  2. Get moving: Forget the notion that exercise brings your appetite on heavy — it actually decreases your appetite. Just another reason to squeeze in a workout!
  3. Don’t skip breakfast: Hopefully you’re well versed on the benefits a solid breakfast brings to the table, but if you’re not aware, skipping it can actually deter your whole day. Getting your metabolism moving earlier will help keep you filled longer.
  4. Power up with protein: Protein helps you sustain energy and feel bright-eyed and bushy-tailed all day long. If you need some inspiration, look to these low-calorie, high-protein breakfast ideas for delicious inspiration.
  5. Take a teatime: Give your after-meal snacking habit a healthy face-lift. A tasty cup of hot tea will help satisfy your perceived hunger and keep you feeling full.
  6. Get honest: Do you constantly snack when you’re bored or stressed? You’re only doing your beautiful bod injustice. Learn how to stop stress eating for good today.
  7. Eat more regularly: One or two big meals all day is a recipe for disaster. Eating smaller meals more regularly will kick your crazy cravings to the curb.
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