Some couples sex life prior to making a good time, perhaps someday do? When do every day when can not do? So casual sex should be a timetable or what? This will not be no passion, and become a routine?
Indeed, married life should not be pre-arranged with a rigid, it should follow the passion is, but also a concrete analysis of specific issues. Complete with the case and “security” may also have some contradictions. As a market economy and a planned economy, completely planned economy system not dead, nor fully liberalized market economy. That is, capitalist countries still have state-owned economy to ensure the smooth operation of the entire economy, such as this government to privatize certain sectors may, the next government nationalized it again.
Some couples are accustomed to the division of marital roles, everything orderly. In fact, this is not good, not did not order but not too much, it is important to understand and respect each other’s sides. Some husbands think that sex is determined by men, as long as you happy, do not consider each other’s feelings and physical condition, and even take the initiative to demand his wife’s very offensive. Also some husband said he should be responsible for his wife’s sexual needs, “no matter when and where, as long as she had requested, I will meet her, never refuse her.” In fact, this itself is a wrong idea, like sexual activity Total launched by his wife. Select the sex time is a critical factor in determining whether the activities by the woman welcome. Therefore, the husband looking for his wife’s sexual demands made should be preceded by the reaction of a nice day to think about whether his wife happy, if something goes wrong, you’d better come back another day dormant. When sick wife, the husband will bring more severe test, is always one up on the manifestations strong impulse, or more compassionate wife’s physical condition and give more gentle, caring and love? This requires the husband to temporarily give up their self-esteem, humility some more sensitive, considerate number.
Some men put sex into a regulation, pre-booked good sex every day of the week, or every six, eight and so on do not want to miss the good old days, when the woman did not consider sexuality or physical condition, thus strangling his wife’s sexual desire and enthusiasm. Obviously, just as none can be repeatedly used and did not add any change in the superior skills as sexual intercourse, it would not exist lovers welcome legalistic sexual intercourse. Incidentally, an important factor in the location of sex, though not of success, but we have no room for choice, but undisturbed, quiet, safe, place to regularly update its layout is always beneficial.
Some men are willing to seize the time to relive the morning mandarin duck dream, especially when the man’s sexuality has diminished, and only in the morning only response capability. However, his wife has to arrange the family’s breakfast, the children get to school and other chores, but also to pick up the dress make-up work, feel pressure, unable to relax and investment, of course, will have time to enjoy this time of sexual pleasure.
All these, which are subject to excessive restrictions on the role of division of labor and bondage of results, rather than try to play to their initiative, open communication and mutual adaptation, are not aware of the existence of a natural rhythm in marriage system and to work adapt to this natural change. “Who followed who go” problem which does exist illustrative life.
Some couples on demand has never been consistent, not you want me to do, what I want you to do. Even though I did the two sides agree on the necessary sense of humor, sadness and values totally consistent, but not completely inconsistent, there must be some kind of communication, compromise and consensus on the issue is no exception. Both husband and wife on the same thing with grief with the music, and the strength to react the same way to be there is not a co-production of different levels and patterns of emotional response, but not too out of step completely out of balance. Wives may feel they are in a tragic state of solitude in marriage, entirely subordinated to the interests of the child, in sexual relations only passive obedience, their emotional response did not resonate with her husband; husbands always think wife own considerate enough, marital things indifferent, while the marriage-related activities but energetic. Thus forming a wife at home alone while her husband was crying out complaining of the situation. Couples in sexual life can have different ideas, preferences and pursuit, it is very natural, but it should be put out of different ideas to discuss, you can consult a doctor or specialist when you fail to reach consensus.
Sex life should have a certain rhythm, but it is not a constant, good or bad mood with the parties, factors libido strength, health, environmental conditions and the like. Marriage itself is like a scored a solid or a thermostat, when the two sides quarrel, the other party can help cool down, reduce pressure in order to restore the situation as soon as possible before the quarrel; one also can drive each other when the other party needs emotional support, to other temperature and pressure. Sex life is the same, there should be an adjustment mechanism to make the needs and satisfaction of both parties to achieve a proper balance. This adjustment mechanism could be called cybernetics, including adjusting the system to maintain, feedback, for heating or cooling the reaction system, acceleration or deceleration. Sex and intimacy itself needs to be adjusted, but they also tend to be able to play some kind of role in marriage regulator system. For example, when the two sides quarrel life tend to make each other’s anger vanished; and if when one is depressed, sex and intimacy often making them feel comfort to him, security, better able to face the difficulties and challenges. In general, young husband needs his wife from time to time to cool down the overheated reaction; and a young wife needs her husband to help her rise is heating up, the need for more sensitive to the needs of her husband, she can Mozhun “sexual pulse” . Workload adjustment mechanism is limited, “regulator” open or closed too quickly, too often tend to be able to “machine” burn, adjust failure, eventually leading to an unstable marriage. All in all this regulatory function has a certain range, overload or normal operation are undesirable. In a happy marriage, this adjustment mechanism is often automatic and does not need to bother to pay attention.