Sexuality is not sin, on the contrary, is the worship of life, is the gift of God, spring and summer is the gentle wind We should appreciate it with clear consciousness and happiness. All healthy, mature men and women will be eager for it and need it. — (German novelist) Frenson
Loss of libido for people, especially for men, is not only unspeakable, but also may be humiliated. New York marriage, sex expert Perel in an interview with “Network Doctor of Medicine” interview that men once found to have lost interest in sex, it is difficult to self-control will be shocked, that this undermines the image of their own men. But few people will go deep into the study, why will lose their sexual desire. In fact, the loss of libido is not overnight, but a gradual process.
University of Chicago professor of sociology Lauren that there are many causes of loss of libido, for men, generally include three aspects of the problem, one is worried about their performance, such as the duration is not long enough, the erection is not hard; To reach the climax, including premature ejaculation; Third, the heavy workload, the living environment caused by sudden changes in mental stress and suffering from sexual desire, erect state of the disease. For women, the more likely to be mental stress, so that the lack of sexual cause. According to Lawman statistics, only 26% of women are always experiencing orgasm in sex. Some men are always bothering friends, and the pressure so that they can not feel the joy of sex, and then lose their sexual desire. In addition, the couple feeling alienated or too close, may also kill sexual desire. For example, some men are very respect for their wives, in order not to affect each other to take birth or take care of the next generation, will deliberately forbear the desire, a long time, will lead to loss of libido.
Lawman believes that if more than three months time, are not interested in sex, we must be vigilant. And in order to early detection and prevention of this issue, the American sex experts put forward seven men and women early warning signal: only in the bedroom contact; no sense of sex from the combination and share the feeling; husband and wife is always a proactive, Is a passive helpless, feel compulsive; no longer look forward to sexual life; sex become mechanical, become routine; lack of sexual fantasies for love; monthly life up to one to two times.
How can a man revive herself? The experts gave eight guidance:
1. Exercise to promote sexual desire. This can make people relax and bring a sense of accomplishment and vitality, and enhance people’s self-confidence in sexual life.
2. Sex expectations do not be too high. Not every sex must be perfect, only 40% -50% of the sex life can be done so that both sides are satisfied. In addition, the frequency of sex is not the only standard of sexual desire, sex before and after the process are feeling good, is normal.
3. Sexual fantasy. Marriage experts regard sexual fantasies as a good thing. This can increase the “old couple” their pleasure, to the same sex warming.
4. Make the atmosphere.
5. Focus on the process. Regardless of men and women, should spend time warm strokes, can not go straight to the theme.
6. Communication and consultation. Couples should be on how to improve sexual desire to communicate, you can read a sex book, so that the other side to understand their own in seeking to make sex more beautiful way.
7. More than a partner to attend the party. When you go out for dinner with your friends, you will have the opportunity to see the new side of the partner, reminiscent of how interesting she is and how exciting he is. Similarly, the other side also have the opportunity to see your flash point. In this way, you will think of why to attract each other, come together.
8. If the above method does not work, it is necessary to see a doctor in time, check and treat the loss of sexual desire caused by the disease.